“The basis of all love is the upwelling life force itself. If we are going to be able to extend that love out to all others, first we have to make room for our own ‘others’, and we have to learn how to love them. Our own others include all the despised parts of ourselves, all the ugly, hideous parts of ourselves, all the threatening parts of ourselves, all the parts that —either because they are so dark, or because they are so bright— we would prefer not to relate to.” — Reggie Ray